More about Resilience

More about Resilience


Resilience allows us to overcome Stresses and to grow and adapt.

Stresses are very common. Stresses can be one-time or recurrent events and can be big or small. They can come from outside things in our environment, or even internally from our minds themselves. A trauma is a specific large stress during which a person experiences a strong threat or harm to themselves. Learn more about trauma here

Chronic Stress is a special type of long-term stress involving an actual body and mind change due to ongoing stress hormones in the body. This can happen as a result of Post-Traumatic Stress from a one-time or recurring trauma. It can also happen due to ongoing stress and not enough time to recover.

Overall, stresses are inevitable, but letting them keep us down is optional.


You are doing well. Your resilience is strong enough to hold you to the ground.

The stress overcame your resilience for now. You suffer.


With time, you can grow your resilience and overcome significant stresses.

Resilience has overcome the stress and you have grown.

If you prefer a linear model of resilience, see our model here.

Outcomes after Stress

After a hard thing, there are different spots you may find yourself.

  1. Recovering: You may find yourself overwhelmed and you may be feeling low. If the stress is a big one, this can last a long time.
  2. Bounce Back: You may Bounce Back to the spot where you started.
  3. Bounce Forward: You may Bounce Forward! This involves growth and landing in different place than you started. This generally happens with time and hard work. This can represent Post-Traumatic Growth after a trauma.

Sustainable Resilience

Often people who suffer try quick-fix resilience methods like denial, avoidance, or substances. We call these Unsustainable Resilience strategies. On the other hand, Sustainable Resilience allows us to be well in the long-term. Learn more Here

Growing Resilient

To grow resilience, these are things to try:

  • Make connections to others
  • Embrace challenges
  • Be willing to make a mistake or to fail
  • Try new skills and hobbies
  • Use humour to keep smiling and laughing
  • Take time to keep the body healthy
  • Try to avoid blame and negative mindsets/attitudes
  • Find Meaning
  • Continue to Hope